Caregivers should always work to nurture a child’s self-concept and self-esteem. Self-esteem is a favorable impression of oneself, where self-concept is one’s own self-image. While these two things are closely related, they are not the same. It is important that a child’s self-esteem is always supported in a positive way.
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There is a difference between healthy and unhealthy self-esteem. Self-esteem can ebb and flow frequently from day to day for children. Some days children will have high self-esteem because they have accomplished a goal. Other days, they will have lower self-esteem, because they weren’t able to accomplish a task or a goal.
Children with healthy self-esteem will be able to bounce back easily on days when their self-esteem is very low.
They will also enjoy interacting with other children and are comfortable in social settings and group activities. They are also able to navigate independent activities without getting frustrated or upset. Children with unhealthy self-esteem will be hesitant to try new things and may put themselves down and speak negatively of themselves. They may also give up easily and become easily frustrated or overwhelmed.
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There are many ways that a caregiver can help children to develop self-esteem. Some ideas are:
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Be a positive role model.
Don’t be too hard on yourself or speak ill of yourself. Children will mirror what they see. |
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Identify and redirect negative remarks.
If a child speaks ill of themselves, it is important to identify this and to redirect their negativity about themselves to a more realistic and positive standard. |
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Give positive feedback.
Instead of saying “You get so frustrated and lose your temper!” try instead, “I know that you are upset, but it was very responsible of you to talk about your feelings instead of yelling.” |
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Create a safe environment.
Children who don’t feel safe are at greatest risk for low and unhealthy self-esteem. This may be due to the lack of the feeling of control that they have in their lives. Creating a safe environment gives children a sense of relief and control and allows them to build their confidence. |
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Respect their opinions.
Showing children that their opinions are valued and respected helps support their self-esteem and build their confidence. |
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Value the children in your care.
Caregivers who verbally express positive respect and recognition to the children in their care create a warm and welcoming environment. |